Qingdao city establishs the doctor of Yu Guoqin vice director of hospital psychology outpatient service to say to the reporter, in last few years annual holiday is the height that student psychology seeks advice from, especially the student that summer vacation seeks advice this year and parent are much all the more, basically be a high school student, a month comes she had recieved 669. The main problem that puzzles these children has 3 kinds: Study problem, domestic concern issue, society gets used to ability, and domestic concern issue needs to get attention especially.
A worried mother calls to Doctor Yu Guoqin everyday recently say, help me quickly, high school daughter of 18 years old should leave again, how should I do? And Doctor Yu Guoqin is making an appointment with the discovery after seeing this pair of mother and daughter, the child does not have any psychogenic disorder. She and the key that the mother conflicts depend on: The mother thinks, I make offerings to you, you must listen to me; And the girl thinks, I am 18 years old before, you have the obligation that brings up me, after 18 years old, I should have my definite idea, the parent's opinion can offer reference only. Below the influence of this kind of idea, the girl is malcontent to parental education, especially the intense allergy that parents checked the behavior such as the phone record that the girl has hit to cause the girl, and association of a few societies also makes parents very afraid.
Yu Guoqin thinks, the difference of sense of this kind of two acting people and conflict are to cause family of partial high school student the main reason of relation insecurity. As the buildup of consciousness of whole society law, in the independence that the child that rise grows to value individual character very in open environment, and the educational idea of a few parents did not transform subsequently, hope child grows according to parental desire, go to plan good way for them, once if meaning or child have,do not collide,blame the child blindly, arouse them instead go against return a mood. In the meantime, many parents take the requirement that satisfies the child in materially seriously one-sidedly, and ignored honour old love young the education that waits for basic morality, cultural education and firm disposition. Method of this kind of education can bring about educational incapacity finally, can discover the child is in charge of namely one day.
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